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Communicate with a Stranger • Build Trust • Change Your World

Communicate with a Stranger • Build Trust • Change Your World

Chaos Creates Opportunity • Talk to a Stranger • Gary • Two Questions • A Mile of Smiles Sometimes I feel like a broken record. So many of my newsletters are about the essential nature of what it means to truly communicate. Sorry folks, we’re at a turning point in our country and in our world where true, heart-based communication is crucial. Of course we need to be clear about our own vision and values. But more importantly, we need to...

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Got Hugs? Got Intimacy? Got Time?

Got Hugs? Got Intimacy? Got Time?

Big theme over here at HandTales. It all started with a guided meditation about my heart. This led to a series of dreams about intimacy – the kind of openhearted, warm and fuzzy connection with another kind of dreams. Just so you know, I don’t have dreams like this …. until now. Which then led to giving and receiving more hugs – real mindful, blood pressure reducing hugs. Which led to the subject of this month’s musing. I’ve really been...

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I was wrong • I’m Sorry …..

I was wrong • I’m Sorry …..

It just hit me.  Sometimes it’s the simplest things ….. I was reading the latest Louise Penny mystery novel A Long Way Home.  [I get so excited when another Inspector Armand Gamache story rests on my night table.]  I was reminded of the 4 phrases that he shares with new recruits to the Quebec Surete Crime Unit.  It hit me that being able to say these things is so simple and so powerful and so hard in any relationship. Gamache tells...

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Four Ways to Find the “One” You Are Looking For

Four Ways to Find the “One” You Are Looking For

Do you have the “one” you have been looking for? Check in with yourself for a moment: I have a wonderful relationship; we are friends and lovers I am in a relationship, but it needs work – lots of work I want a relationship, but I can’t seem to find the “good ones” I have relationships, but keep repeating the same self-defeating, disconnecting patterns I never want a relationship again; it hurts too much and it’s too much work I never want a...

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In the Sweetness of Friendship

In the Sweetness of Friendship

In the Sweetness of Friendship, let there be laughter and sharing of pleasures.  For in the dew of little things, the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.  ~Kahil Gibran One of the reasons I moved back to Vermont after almost 43 years, is to play with my Grand Nieces and Nephews.  Here’s Cole and Linden, cousins and best buddies, playing on my Birthday.  To witness their friendship along with the friendship between my other Grand...

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Take the 80/20 Challenge with Me

Take the 80/20 Challenge with Me

Can you get your message across?  Did you really listen to what she said? Are you nervous about speaking up? Could you use a communications tune up? Will you join me in the taking the 80/20 Challenge? Let’s work together to improve our communication skills. To what end? To clearly ask for what you need. To break through some intimacy roadblocks. To better understand your partners – personal and business. To increase your bottom-line by making...

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The Passion Heart ~ Fire!

The Passion Heart ~ Fire!

Are you spontaneous? Do you usually know what you want and expect others to know what they want? Are you all about fun, action, creative zeal? Love to live for the moment and people know it? If you own a passion heart on either hand, it will move from under the pinky up towards or to your middle finger. You sizzle. When the fiery, passionate person gets mad, watch out! It’s about getting even.  And getting bored easily if you do not have...

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The Romantic Idealist ~ Air

The Romantic Idealist ~ Air

Are you reserved by nature? Romantic at heart imagining long walks in the woods, all the wonderful memories of experiences past, the possibility of a fine relationship in the future? Confrontation rarely on your menu?  Do you idealize a mate with passion and fire and at the same time afraid of being burned? Romantic Rationalists or sometimes we call them the Idealists are not in-your-face types. When you get mad, you might write a 4 page...

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The Heroic Stoic ~ Earth

The Heroic Stoic ~ Earth

Are you steady, reliable? Not very expressive emotionally – that is about your own feelings? Are you private by nature? Love to get tangible results at the end of the day? Perhaps show your love through good deeds but not processing emotions ad nauseum? How do you feel about clingy people?? Is the satisfaction of a good job done important to you? Are there people in your life that just want to drag those feeling out and you aren’t on...

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The Nurturer ~ Water

The Nurturer ~ Water

Do you care so much it hurts some times? Do you love to nurture and nourish those you love? Are you the first to rescue hurt animals and sad children? Do you love nothing better than to put a smile on someone’s face because you listened and showed real empathy? You might just be the nurturer or water heart? This is about being expressive in your concern for others. If your heart line moves from under your pinky up to your index finger, then you...

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